Friday, November 30, 2001

kuih raya sindrom...

erkkk.. oklah.. oklah.. nampaknya ramai yg marah2 aku sbb lama tak update. kan aku dah bagi disclaimer hari tu.. heheh..

so, hari ni dgn berbesar hati aku updatelah w/pun bukan dari idea aku sendiri. dosa 'ek kalo kecewakan hati orang nih.. yelah.. org datang dgn harapan ada citer baru.. nengok2 camtu jugak.. frust.. aku pun camtu jugak sebenarnya..

oklah.. this article aku pernah bagi kat wife aku masa kitorang tengah jiwang karat dulu.. sat aku check date kat kad ni.. haaa.. ada pun.. 28/10/95..

The Grapefruit Syndrome
by Lola B. Walters in The Ensign - aku ambik dr Reader's Digest

My husband and I had been married about two years - just long enough for me to realize that he was a normal man rather than a hero - when I read an article recommending that couples regularly discuss the habits they find annoying in each other. I talked to my husband about the idea, and he agreed to give it a try.

As I recall, we were to name five things we found irritating, and I started off. After more than fifty years, I remember only my first complaint: grapefruit. I told him that I didn't like the way he ate grapefruit. He peeled it and ate it like an orange. Could a woman be expected to spend a lifetime watching her husband eat a grapefruit like that?. Although I've forgotten them, I'm sure the rest of my complaints were similar.

After I finished, it was his turn. I still carry a mental image of his handsome young face as he gathered his brows together in a thoughtful, puzzled frown and the looked at me with his large, blue-gray eyes. "Well, to tell the truth," he said, "I can't think of anything I don't like about you, honey."

Tears ran down my face, I had found fault with him over such trivial things as the way he ate grapefruit, while he hadn't noticed any of my own annoying habits.

I wish I could say that this cured me of fault-finding. It didn't. But it did make me aware early in my marriage that husbands and wives need to keep in perspective the small differences in their habits and personalities. Whenever I hear of couples being incompatible, I always wonder if they are suffering from the Grapefruit Syndrome.

sorry if i'm not really understand u. i'm working on it everytime we quarrelled.

bergaduh bukan bermakna tak sayang, cuma 'clash of thinking' or 'difference in opinion'. use it to more understand each other.

all 'yes' and no 'no' make the world rigid and our lifes boring...


heheh.. yg italic tu aku yg tulis..

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